Here is my favorite definition of Co-Dependency: I am OK if you are OK.
I am not OK if you are not OK.
Ouch! Right? That is Co-dependency in a nutshell.
I recommend reading anything by Melody Beattie Regarding this topic.
Co-dependency is often-times a side effect of living in an alcoholic and/or abusive home as a child. It is a learned way of being in relationship that was helpful at the time of early development. (Walking on eggshells, not causing upset, to avoid conflict, etc. ) However, in adulthood, co-dependency eventually becomes a burden as co-dependent relationships are a burden, burn people out and ultimately cause resentments, conflict and strife: the very thing that co-dependent behavior was supposed to prevent. Counseling helps replace co-dependent thinking with inter-dependent relationships that are far more equitable and healthier for everyone involved.
Other issues related to co-dependency include:
- Low self-esteem
- Addiction and substance abuse
- Control issues
Addictions treated include:
- Substance abuse
- Opiate dependence
- Marijuana use
- Prescription medication abuse other illicit drug use
- Food addiction